Former Facebook User Explains Why He Quit

by Ari Herzog on May. 19, 2010 · 5 comments


A scene from DLD Conference 2010

When the Federal Trade Commission and other regulatory and free speech advocates focus their eagle eyes on Facebook, management perks. More changes are apparently coming to the social networking site that approaches 500 million users. Once again, users’ account settings will be changed without their permission and only told about the changes after the fact.

It is for this reason that I was intrigued after reading an anti-corporation blog post by Adriel Hampton in which he shared he deleted his Facebook account. I was curious for his reasons. I pressed him for details and emailed Adriel a series of questions. Here are his responses…

Do you agree Facebook has gone rogue?

I absolutely agree with the premise of the Wired article you cite. Facebook has gone rogue. In a way, they are flailing about over there like there are no adults in the operation — or, if they are doing it on purpose. It’s very frightening. The privacy/“Like” issues themselves were not huge for me; I’ve always had very public settings on my profile and I’m generally very open on the web.

However, in aggregate, Facebook’s continued path of barely asking permission, constantly changing layouts, and not responding clearly to customer concerns, I felt compelled to stop supporting the site. For me, that meant deleting my personal profile. Much of it had to do with the efforts to get sites to adopt Facebook as their default social element, too. At what point, as an advocate of government-to-citizen social media efforts, do I say, we’re not creating content to sell Facebook ads?

How much time did you spend thinking about your decision?

I’ve been upset with Facebook’s general path for more than a year. I’ve done quite a bit of reading on the subject, some of danah boyd’s stuff on privacy and how the default design should be for young women, who have more real world privacy concerns than someone in my demographic. In the end, I made what was basically an emotional and very abrupt decision to cut the cord.

When did you start using Facebook?

I joined in early 2008. I joined to contact someone I needed to reach for work, and who I hadn’t found in more traditional online listings. I quickly found that I really liked sharing and following friends through Facebook and I also used it quite heavily for political activism. About a quarter of my friends there were people I’d met offline, maybe 10 percent family and “close” friends.

Did you waste time on Facebook?

I wouldn’t say the time has been wasted, because I’ve learned a lot about Facebook and accomplished a lot with it, including things like small mainstream news articles for things I did there. But I’ve probably invested several hundred hours over two years as an active member, in chunks as small as a few minutes to load a photo from my phone to hours cultivating contacts. My time using social media hasn’t really decreased, it’s just moved to other platforms.

Are you concerned about not interacting anymore with your Facebook friends?

Most of the contacts I have that enjoy the back and forth of social media are also on Twitter, so I can reach them there. I also hope to increase dialogue on my blog, and will be exploring some of the emerging open source alternatives to Facebook.

Did you tell your friends you were going to delete your account?

I announced, with a real anti-Facebook status update. I’d read that your account actually takes 14 days to delete, and I also left a link to my blog. However, it does appear that the page goes down right away, so I don’t think many people saw that. As Facebook has evolved, I found progressively less interaction there, so I’m not sure how much I’ll even be missed.

How do you feel about people taking pictures of you, or uploading older pictures of you, to their albums — but you not seeing it?

That makes me a bit uncomfortable, although plenty of pictures of me are on the open web. Actually, what I don’t like is photos of my children connected to text with my name or their names, and in the past I’ve asked people to untag those, which they were happy to do. I have to think on how to address that in the future.

Do you think other people should delete their accounts?

As my action was a bit emotional, and meant as a personal political statement, I haven’t fully decided whether I want other people to quit. What I do want to say is that it is my thought-out position that Facebook cannot be trusted.

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Kristi from Blogging Tips
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May 19, 2010 at 4:14 PM

I think with or without Facebook, people could be posting pictures of you anywhere on the Internet. I agree that posting kid’s photos is going a step beyond and you should always ask the child’s parents for permission first, although that might be difficult in the case of kids in the background you may not know.

I hope whatever they are doing with their privacy settings in the next update will include allowing you to stop posting whoever you’ve become friends with and whatever you like automatically to your wall. I love it when I have a batch of friend requests come in at a time, but hate that if I accept them all, I get 20 updates on my wall that I have to go clean off shortly thereafter.
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John Soares May 20, 2010 at 8:08 PM

I feel Facebook has gone way too far with respect to people’s privacy. For now I’m keeping my account because it is the best way for me to connect with many family members and friends, and I’m willing to public with most of what I do in my life.

A key problem is that Facebook does not have a strong competitor, and this allows it to dictate terms to users.
.-= From John Soares to you: Facebook Privacy — Should You Leave Facebook? =-.

Ari Herzog May 21, 2010 at 8:00 PM

Define strong competitor. A social networking site that all of your family and friends also belong? Perhaps if you join there and you invite them, it would meet the criteria?

John Soares May 21, 2010 at 8:26 PM

A strong competitor is company that has a realistic shot at getting at least 100 million users within 2-3 years.

Facebook is huge and grows larger every day. There is no obvious alternative that I can see. Many people join Facebook because so many of their friends, family, coworkers, and business contacts are already there.

I’ve heard about a potential new social media site called Diaspora, but it’s still in the planning stages and who knows what it would actually be like, even though it’s touted as a user-friendly alternative to Facebook.
.-= From John Soares to you: Facebook Privacy — Should You Leave Facebook? =-.

mark May 22, 2010 at 11:51 AM

I agree with John that Facebook has gone too far, but that there are currently no easy substitutes. Facebook apparently feels comfortable that they have a hold on the market, and they seem to be VERY right. It makes no sense to me how the people in charge of Facebook think that it is a good idea to treat their community like this. They must think everyone is stupid or just too lazy to look for alternatives.

As far as the picture thing goes – Kristi is right. Also, that is not just a Facebook problem. It is a symptom of free speech on the web (which I am all for, by the way).

Have a great day!
.-= From mark to you: This Week on The Web – 21st of May, 2010 =-.

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